A Wake Up Call
December 1, 2020
A Wake Up Call
The Mom Training Podcast with Diana Ballard
Diana: Welcome to The Mom Training Podcast. Hope you had a great Thanksgiving, however, you celebrated it, with tons of family or just you and your husband and your kids or whatever you did. Hope you had a great Thanksgiving and had a million things to be grateful for and were able to think about that kind of stuff, even though this year has been a crazy year. [chuckle]
So today, we're going to talk about how important we are. And the reason why we're talking about that is… So, this weekend, or this last weekend, when I was at my parents’ house, we watched the movie Clouds.
Now, if you haven't seen that. it's a really good movie. It's about a young man who has cancer, who pretty much… His story is like, “I can hope that you start living without having a cancer diagnosis.”
So, it is a little sad. It's a little bit of a tear jerker, but it's not horrible. I hadn't watched it, because they were like, “Oh, it's so sad. You're going to cry your eyes out.” I'm like, “Yeah, that really motivates me to watch that thing.”
But I watched it with my mom. And it was really good. It was really good and really made you think about what your life means and who you affect with your day-to-day life.
And so, we watched that, and then we were driving home from Arizona. We live in Utah. It’s about a 10-hour drive from where my parents lived to home. And we were just seconds away from being in a head on collision.
I mean, insanely close to a head on collision. Someone got a little hasty and was trying to pass a semi on a windy road up a hill. And we found ourselves like head-to-head with a car. Like, in the same lane, literally feet… I mean from us that we don't even know how we didn't hit. Because it came around… It was around a corner and there we were, with a car in our lane. Both going, who knows, like 65, 75 miles an hour.
And my husband had to cross over, like the left lane over onto the side, and we missed a bunch of poles that were on this side. I mean, you guys… I've had to processes this for days, because literally, literally, we probably would have all died.
I'm like shook up about it. I'm seriously, like, “Whoa, my life could have been completely different.” If I lived, I guarantee that like someone would have been really, really hurt in our car, or died. Like I could have lost a bunch of my family or I could have died myself. I mean, I get a serious realization that my life could have been completely different in that moment, because of a choice of someone else.
And so, it's really made me reflect this last, I don’t know, week. The last couple days, about what like who I affect? Who I am? If I would have left, my kids would have been affected, my husband would have been affected, my extended family. All the people that I influence in my podcast or Mom Training. My friends, I mean people that I interact with, my neighbors… I just…
It went through my mind about everyone that would have been affected by something happening to me, or my family. And it made me realize how important each one of us are. Like, all the time. No matter who you are, no matter how influential you think you might be, or not be. Like, “Oh, I just have my family. And I go to work…” Whatever.
You affect tons of people around you without even knowing it. There are tons of people that would miss you. There are tons of people that would be really sad, if you left. And your life matters, especially as mom, especially our influence in the home.
So, I want to really bring this home. There are so many times when us as moms wonder if we're enough, if we're loving our family enough and if we’re giving enough time and energy. If anything's even making a difference with our children. If they're going to turn out… 18 years in, are these going to be good citizens? Are these going to be good people? Have I done a good job?
I want you to know that everything that you're doing is worth it, right now. All the work that you're putting in, all of the efforts that you're making, makes a difference. And if by some freak accident, if some weird thing happened, where you left, there would be a hole. There would be a hole where you were at.
We need to appreciate our life now. Because we, literally, never know when our last moment can be. And that really has hit me hard. Literally. I can't even express to you like the knot in my stomach. That I can't even believe that I'm still alive from what happened this weekend.
And it's going to affect me for a while, I think of – “Man, I want to make this day count. I want to make this moment something special. I want to do the best that I can to make my relationships the most important thing that I do every day. And teaching my children good things, and to be good people and to love life. And let them know that I love them because it's not a guarantee, how much time that we have, every single one of us, every single day.
So, let's focus on just one day at a time, loving our life, loving ourselves, loving our family, and being the influence that we are, wherever we are. And I hope that you don't have to have a wakeup call I had this weekend, where…
I thought I was loving life. I mean, I thought I was cherishing things, but now, it brought it to an entirely new level. I'm grateful to be a mom. I'm grateful to be alive. I’m grateful to be speaking to you right now. I'm grateful for this crazy year that has taught us so much, that has hurt, that has stretched us.
But here we are, we’re pulling through it. And we're going to be better on the other side.
So, remember that you matter. Remember that your life makes a difference. And we’ll see you next Tuesday on The Mom Training Podcast.